HomeWhy Independent?


If you are willing to put time into marketing work to identify a birthmother..

If you are only seeking a healthy newborn..

If you are only seeking a same race child..

If you are willing to speak and work with a birthmother in the planning..

If you are willing to travel to another state or area to meet your child..

If you can manage with accepting phone calls at varied times of the day..

If you want a flexible payment schedule..

If you hate red tape..

If you want a lower risk..

If you want to try to save some money..

YES, independent adoption is for you.


 • only 30% of adoptions are outside of a family

 • there are 27,000 domestic adoptions annually

since 2002, but this double in next 3 years

 • there are 1,000,000 US children needing adoptive families within a year

 • there are 5,000,000 adopted persons in the US

 • 1 in 3 families have seriously considered adopting a child

 • 60% of surveyed Americans reported they have had personal experience i=with adoption, meaning they themselves, a close family member, or a friend was adopted, adopted a child or placed a child for adoption

(compiled from the council on Adoptable Children, the Adoption Clearinghouse, and US government sources, as presented to APC, 2002)

Links to more statistics, by Adoption.com

Simply put, independent adoption is an adoption completed without the help of an agency (private or public).  It is arranged through personal knowledge, third party referral, or networking where the birthparent selects the family.  The third party referral often comes from an intermediary such as a doctor, attorney, facilitator, or school. Often the terms independent adoption and private adoption are used interchangeably, but private adoption can also include private agencies.  Independent adoptions are not legal in all states, but they are almost always domestic adoptions from the United States.
Because you as prospective parents make all the arrangements for this type of adoption, it is often surrounded by many fears and misconceptions.  You are orchestrating the actions, but you are not alone.  You will be hiring several professionals to assist you – advertising help, attorneys, counselors.  You will be getting help from friends, family, clergy, doctors, and others.  Some may say the motto for private adoption is “paying and praying” but “working and faith” is really more accurate.  Bottom line is that if you are willing to wait, then there is no need to compromise on your dream child.
If you are looking for a healthy infant, there are two possible paths –


you can sit and wait for a year or two just to get on agency’s wait list or lottery, or


you can shorten the wait by trying to locate a child yourself

Looking at the option of signing up with an agency means that $15,000 of your $30,000 fees go to that agency at the beginning of the process to lock in your slot. You then have no money to pursue any other options. And if your next door neighbor all of a sudden hears about a birth mother through their church, the money you paid to the agency still is gone. Gone. And Agencies are not bad, they are just expensive. The good agencies offer counseling and the kind of birthmother support that increase the chances that the adoption will succeed. But, the good agencies represent only about 15% of them.
How much time, effort and creativity are you willing to put in?  Are you willing to put yourself into it and find yourself a situation, or are you willing to just wait it out for someone else to do it for you?  In independent adoption you may be lucky in 1-2 contacts, or you may have to weed through 15-100 possible situations before one is right for you.  There is no privacy as your life and thoughts and plans are exposed.  On the other hand, the agency goes through all this, too, you just aren’t involved in that part and that is why you are paying them for those services.
Most families pursue adoption independently because they want to:
* Bring more information to their child’s future
* Not involve a bunch of strangers
* Have more control over the birthmother relationship
* Attempt to cut costs
* Attempt to cut wait time
* Be more selective in their child
* Be able to turn down situations if they aren’t just right
* Do it their way, without restrictions, required classes, and sharing with other couples and families
* Avoid competing with other couples and families
* Have the chance to talk more with a birthmother and get more information
* Avoid regulations and restrictions of agencies
* Want a closed relationship post-adoption where most agencies require full or partial openness; or just be able to mandate your type of relationship.


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